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~This Journal is Friends Only~

If you are going to comment on anything here, especially if you want to just argue without PROOF, then you will be mocked, ignored and banned, not necessarily in that order. If you drop in on posts older than 6 months old with no good reason, you will be mocked, your comment deleted and banned again not in that order. This is my little corner of the web, and if you don’t like the rules feel free to leave, just close the door on your way out.

PSA...New Rules v2.0, edits courtesy of meihua

Newer Rules of this LJ s of 2-6-2010

In this LJ I am attempting to create a safer space. for friends, allies, and others who may need somewhere to land on the net briefly.

On this LJ, please:

* Don't non-consensually debate me or others. And if you're wondering whether or not I've consented to debating with you, the answer is to ask me if I haven't implicitly invited debate on ______ topic. Sometimes the answer will be yes, other times it will be no. If I tell you no, the answer is NO.

* Don't derail discussions.

* Don't mansplain.

* Don't Whitesplain: The “explanation”, or “whitesplaining”: “I said this/did this/behaved this way because I was being ironic/trying to illustrate/racism doesn’t exist anymore/didn’t think anyone would be offended/it CAN’T be offensive because this this and this/I said it to my [insert ethnicity] friend and THEY weren’t offended…” snagged from here

* Don't make comments which are homophobic, biphobic, racist, fat-hating, transphobic, misogynistic, cissexist, ableist and the like.

* Unless you are going to start paying for my LJ time, then you (collective you) do not have the right to criticize my writings here. Constructive dialog is welcomed, but out and out unprovoked criticism is unwelcome.

* Don't like what I post? Don't comment. Very simple, so simple I'm not sure why people can't seem to do that more often.

* Follow the rule of - If you can't say anything useful, constructive or unless I asked for your opinion... then keep it to yourself.

* My posts are about me for the most part. Don't make MY post about YOU, because I don't like it.

Doing any of these will get your comments screened and you'll be asked to reconsider. Everyone says something stupid sometimes. I know I can be guilty of foot-in-mouth syndrome at times. But be prepared to be called on it / own your privilege / back off. And in the same breath, please do call me on it, and I expect you to. I'll do my best to listen.

That is all from the management. Carry on as you were.

So ...on Coming Out Day

I've got mixed feelings about Coming Out Day. On the one hand, I understand it's importance, the necessity for some to have this day. On the other, I almost feel like there's a pressure to be out and proud or use the day as a springboard to come out if you're not already.

What I don't think a lot of people realize is that coming out, being out and staying out is a privilege. It's brave, it's costly but it's a privilege. Being out is also dangerous for some of us. While it would be nice to come out of the closet, blowing the door off the hinges, having everything be awesome and nice... it's often not the case.

Too many people, especially young people are told they are not worthy of human decency, love, affection because of their orientation. Too many are cast out from their homes, their lives torn apart for taking that step. For being true to themselves.

Too often our youth are driven to suicide, too often people don't come out for fear of losing everything. Home, job, children, even their lives. It's not easy to come out and have life just go on as it had been. Some people are forthright in their confusion, their disdain, anger, feelings of betrayal.

Others may slowly creep out of your life, unsure how to deal with you now that you've broken their nice little assumptions of you. Then there's the hostility, the threats, the danger that the person you know isn't who you thought they were. The way in which they avoid you, hurt you, make remarks that cut all the deeper because they know you have taken that leap to be open and honest with everyone in your life.

Coming out is a process that shifts with each time you do it. Each time you give that piece of yourself up to outer scrutiny. If you come out, it'll be done many, many times for the rest of your life. There's always new people, new situations, new reasons, ways to fling open that door again.

But there's the flip side to all of this. For a lot of people, they just can't come out. It will mean death, it will mean loss of all. There's some people who don't' give a damn about being out. It's their life, their business and no one needs to know.

I can respect that, and I can also respect those that have to come out. To be who you are in all ways to everyone around you. Neither way is wrong, or right or perfect, or deserving of ire.

Lastly, and this is something I want people to really remember. You don't owe it to anyone to come out. You don't owe the world, your family, your friends, anyone but you a reason to be out.

If you never tell a soul about your partner, never correct pronouns when someone asks about your husband or wife, it's all good. 

We all have the right to live our lives as we see fit. It's not a competition, no one gets a fucking prize for being out nor do we get black marks for keeping our lives to ourselves.

So if you are using today to come out, I salute you. I am proud of you and I honor your bravery in doing so.

If you are pondering your orientation, thinking about today and using it as a way to come to terms with who you are, again...my hat's off to you and I wish you well on your journey to wherever you land.

If today is a day that makes you cringe and hate the world and it's ideas, I understand and hope it passes quickly and quietly for you.

If someone takes the risk to come out to you today, be a good friend. Don't talk over them, just listen, don't offer condolences, say it's a phase, turn them away or tell them to get right with DEITY. It doesn't work that way.

Don't take someone's act of bravery and turn into a moment to earn brownie points, or show just how tolerant you are.

Shut up, listen and when they are done talking? Give them a hug and thank them for taking that risk. Thank them for their bravery and their trust in you.

Lastly some resources for you:

National Coming Out Day - Wikipedia Article

National Coming Out Day Facebook Page

On Respecting the Boundaries of your Bisexual Friends (from my 'grown up blog')

Human Rights Campaign Straight Ally "Coming Out Day Guide" 

HRC's Coming Out Day resource page

We Got Your Back Project 

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

On "Save the Pearls"

So... I've had some time to ruminate on this 'book'... "Save the Pearls". I put book in air quotes because this doesn't deserve to be called a book. It's a self serving, poor me, white people are OMG oppressed in this far flung, post apocalyptic, fictitious world so this is totally ok, AMIRITE?! oppression fantasy brought to you.

Here's the "About" blurb. I apologize in advance for any rage you may experience, but I didn't write this. Bold commentary mine.

Would you betray your loved ones—and maybe your entire race—to avoid a horrible death?

In a post-apocalyptic world where resistance to an overheated environment defines class and beauty, Eden Newman’s white skin brands her as a member of the lowest class, a weak and ugly Pearl. The clock is ticking: if Eden doesn’t mate before her eighteenth birthday, she’ll be left outside to die. (Humanity is fucked then if people who don't mate by 18 are left to die, shortest dystopian epic ever)

If only a dark-skinned Coal from the ruling class would pick up her mate option, she’d be safe. But no matter how much Eden darkens her skin and hair, she’s still a Pearl, still ugly-cursed with a tragically low mate-rate of 15%.

Just maybe one Coal sees the real Eden and will save her-she has begun secretly dating her handsome co-worker Jamal. But when Eden unwittingly compromises her father’s secret biological experiment, she is thrown into the eye of a storm-and the remaining patch of rainforest, a strange and dangerous land.

Eden must fight to save her father, who may be humanity’s last hope, while standing up to a powerful beast-man she believes is her enemy, despite her overwhelming attraction to him. To survive, Eden must change-but only if she can redefine her ideas of beauty-and of true love.

Acclaimed writer VICTORIA FOYT <--- acclaimed by WHO? blends equal parts suspense and philosophy, adventure and romance, in this captivating dystopian novel set in a terrifying future, which is all too easy to imagine. <--- only if you are a white person who is terrified of becoming a minority and what it could mean if *gasp* there are more of them than us.

The first installment in the Save the Pearls series of fantasy romance novels, Revealing Eden recently won the 2012 Eric Hoffer Award in the Young Adult Category, the Best YA Fantasy Award from Books & Authors, and was runner up in the 2012 Los Angeles Book Festival!

NO, JUST FUCKING NO. Save yourself the trouble and embarrassment of attempting to make a "statement" when all you've done is show how very, very little you know of how the world works. This attempt at showing some alternate reality, where white people are oppressed, devalued and dying out because they have a low mate rate because they can't survive a super heated environment due to their lack of melatonin is perverse.

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Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Pass this on....

Swiped from [personal profile] neo_prodigy

who swiped it from his publisher:

"Don't speak to me about your religion; first show it to me in how you treat other people. Don't tell me how much you love your God; show me in how much you love all God's children. Don't preach to me your passion for your faith; teach me through your compassion for your neighbors. In the end, I'm not as interested in what you have to tell or sell as I am in how you choose to live and give." -Newark Mayor Corey Booker

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Because Progress Is Not A Spectator Sport

Originally posted by neo_prodigy at Because Progress Is Not A Spectator Sport


The sad reality is that while many of us talk about social justice or we're quick to comment when there's an internet drama popping off, when it comes time to do proactive work that's positive and free of drama and wank, we quickly notice that the social justice ranks tend to thin out.

Don't be that person. Steve Rogers doesn't want you to be that person. Social justice is not a specator's sport, and progress doesn't occur unless each of us do our part.

The following are two excellent organizations that need submissions and your involvement.

First Up.......

Ars Marginal

Launched by afro_dyte aka RVC Bard aka Afro-Dyke aka my internet wife aka Woman I love you but I cannot keep up with all of these multiple monikers and I'm gonna need you to make me a list, in its short time Ars Marginal has established itself as one of the premiere sites which presents a progressive view of arts and entertainment from marginalized perspectives.

As my other internet half so eloquently stated:

Ars Marginal was not set up to be one of those places where people come to visit and hear the untainted brilliance of the “in crowd.” It’s more like the place where us “little people” get to speak our minds about what we really think about the shit the entertainment industry tries to shove down our throats. It’s one part sanctuary from oppressive bullshit disguised as entertainment, one part social commentary, one part rabble-rousing.

While being a little virtual clubhouse was fun, there seems to be a real need for Ars Marginal to move beyond that. That means more authors, more content, more comments, and more slaying of trolls who have no home training.

What can you do right now? A few ideas:

-Tell all your online friends about what’s going on at Ars Marginal each time a great discussion or post shows up here.

-Know somebody who wrote something amazing that fits Ars Marginal’s purpose and style? Cool! Ask them about reposting their content here at Ars Marginal.

-Got something you want to discuss? Awesome! Let us know by leaving a comment at the new “What do you want to talk about?” page.

-Tweet and retweet about what’s happening at Ars Marginal

-Do something else that we didn’t think of but you think would help

A few FAQs:

Q: What Is Ars Marginal about?

A: I'm glad you asked.

Q: But I'm a white person, am I allowed to contribute to this POC movement?

A: We have female, POC, LGBTQ and believe it or not some of our marginalities intersect. IE: we have Women of Color sharing their views as well as Queer POCs. And we also have caucasian contributors who are loved and adored. As long as you've got home training, you are welcomed.

Q: But I'm so busy I don't have time to generate new content.

A: That's okay, we gladly take old posts. If you penned something powerful and excellent three years ago that's still relevant now, share it, we would love to read it. If you do reviews and blog about your favorite fandoms from SJ perspectives, submit it, we'd love to read it.

If you have any other questions shoot an email to rvcbard [at] gmail [dot] com.

Next Up......

The We Got Your Back Project

Founded by my peeps whereisjoy and tanyad, this is a project that's near and dear to my heart, for obvious reasons.

They are accepting videos and written statements that share how the lives of LGBTQIA people get better when we have each others back. Give some hope to LGBTQIA youth by telling them how your own life improved.

News articles, videos, resources, old posts you wrote years ago, are all welcomed and encouraged.

To submit, send an email to wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com

Boost the signal, get involved.

Signal Boost: Return of the DDoS

Originally posted by deathpixie at Signal Boost: Return of the DDoS
For those wanting to know more about the recent DDoS attacks, yes, it looks like it was the Russian government trying to shut down the dissidents again.

As I said last time, while it's frustrating not to have access, LJ is a lot more than a social network platform. From the article:

"LiveJournal isn’t just a social network. It’s also a platform for organizing civic action. Dozens of network projects and groups mobilize people to solve specific problems — from defending the rights of political prisoners to saving endangered historic architecture in Moscow."

So while I know many are considering the move over to Dreamwidth and other such sites, supporting LJ is a way we can help support those who use it for more than a writing/roleplaying/social venue.

Also, as a FYI, LJ is giving paid users effected by the outage two weeks of paid time as compensation.

Savage Reality - Repost from neo_prodigy

Once more, neo_prodigy hits the nail on the head re: Dan Savage's biphobia and other failings:

"Bisexual activists like to complain that they're the most oppressed because (1) it's a contest, and (2) it's a good excuse. If they can argue—and unfortunately, they can—that lots of gay people are mean to them (some gay people don't want to date them, some gay people doubt they exist) and straight people are mean to them (some straight people don't want to date them, some straight people doubt they exist), then bisexual people aren't to blame for the bisexual closet. Everyone else is.

“I’m sorry, bisexual activists, but you’re doing it all wrong. Instead of berating me for my alleged bi-phobia—and if I’m the enemy, you’re in real trouble—berate your closeted compatriots. If they all came out tomorrow, you could put an end to bi-phobia, take over the LGBT movement, and kick my ass out of it.”

Dan Savage,

In regards to your comments on bisexuals, I only have this to say: THANK YOU!

Yes, thank you for personifiying everything that is fucked up about the LGBTQ community with your nonstop racism, transphobia, biphobia and pure unadulterated bitchassness and making it easier for me to have a reference to point to. Thank you for being the guy who villifies rape survivors and still manages to get a pass for it. That way I can stop pretending like I would piss on you if you were burning in hell, kinda like how you can stop pretending that you care about black people.

More than Phelps, more than the Westboro Baptist Church, assholes like you are the reason why it doesn't get better for queer people. Because as you have continuously proven, you're more of a threat to us than they are. At least they don't prop themselves up to be allies.

And biphobia will only end when everyone comes out of the closet? REALLY SAVAGE?!!!! REALLY?!!!!!! Because being a visible minority ALWAYS goes over so well in this society. I've been out and proud as a visible Negro. We see how well that's worked for me and mine for the past 400+ years in this country alone. We've also seen how well that's worked for those who are visibly out. Ask Emille Griffith, Lawrence King, Duanna Johnson and Matthew Shepard and all the other heroes and heroines what being visible gets you.

But you are right about one thing Savage, you do represent the LGBTQ community. In fact, you personify everything that is the LGBTQ community. Because one would be a fool to think you are the only one with this fucked up mindset. In fact, this is why I always state that while I'll advocate for queer rights, I've got no use for the LGBTQ community. Because otherwise, the LGBTQ community would've marched and protested against you the way they attacked black folks during the Prop 8 fallout, even though white people were the reason for Prop 8 passing. But no, all we'll get is excuses and hemming and hawwing and defenses about how speshul Savage's ass is.

And to all of you white folks (and a few token sellouts) who still give him the time of day, FUCK YOU TOO. I mean what the hell else does this guy have to do to prove what a piece of shit he is? But of course he's enabled because he knows he can get away with it. Trust, this is some white privilege through and through. Because let POC, specifically a black man, spew a portion of the bile Savage has spewed and they would've been lynched by white folks queer and straight alike.

And this is the asshole, we're supposed to entrust with at-risk suicidal youth? REALLY? REALLY?

Yeah ask me again why it doesn't get better.
I already didn't like Dan Savage... but goddamn now I'm just bursting with anger. How the fuck, just how the everliving fuck does he even fix his mouth to spout the shit about bisexuals that he continues to let out into the ether?

Via AngryBlackTumblr:

Bisexuals You Need to Come Out to Your Friends and Spouses—Now

Dear Dan Savage,

You know his claim as to why Bi's NEED to come out? So we can basically stop whining about being invisible and do something and claim our spot in the community. You know what, fuck and you Savage. No one should be forced to be out, in case you haven't noticed not everyone can safely be out no matter their orientation.

A lot of people can't be out because they will lose their homes, their jobs, their kids, be threatened with bodily harm, and the list goes on.

I should not have to declare myself at the LGBTQIA community border for your comfort. I don't have to declare my orientation so you can pigeon hole me, continually treat me as a red-headed step child in the family because I supposedly can run back to hetero privilege whenever I get too scared.

You don't speak for me Savage. You don't get to draw lines in the sand and declare that my bisexuality is valid only because of my age. You don't get to deny those teen boys (notice girls aren't even on his radar as valid) their orientation because you claimed being bi as a teen.

You are not them, they are not you and you are not the fucking mouthpiece of the entire LGBTQIA movement. You preach that it gets better for some, but you are employing the same divisive tactics that anti-gay leaning folks use on the community.

Just stop talking about things you don't know, you don't understand and for fucks sake stop posturing yourself as the be-all-end-all pundit of queer issues. Stick to what you know, which isn't much.

No love,

ETA: Just a few links I found while Googling Dan Savage + Bisexuality. Almost all links point to some bi-phobic shit he's said in the past and never apologized for. Come at me again with how he's not bi-phobic and I'm going to laugh at you.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Jun. 16th, 2011

All Saints is where a lot of my friends call home, spiritually and otherwise. Please take time from your busy schedule to vote for All Saints Episcopal Church. It's a lovely church home for so many and they do a lot of good in the community. Thank you!

Click here to support All Saints Episcopal Church.

A signal boost would be greatly appreciated from the masses as well.

Thank you!

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

internet powers, activate!

Originally posted by kythryne at internet powers, activate!
Okay, people. I need you to take this viral, and fast.

We know someone in upstate New York who needs a good custody lawyer ASAP. I'm not at liberty to go into details publicly, but this woman is very afraid that her abusive boyfriend is going to get sole custody of her young child.  She's presently being represented by a public defender who doesn't seem to care about the case, and she has very few resources left at this point. Her next hearing is on Thursday.

If you know a good lawyer in New York State who might be willing to take this case for a low fee or pro bono, or at least offer her advice or support, please let me know. If you don't know anyone, please repost this far and wide. As a mother and an abuse survivor, it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach to contemplate a child being left in the hands of an abuser.

I can be reached at kythryne@gmail.com if you have any leads or want to help.

The internet can work miracles. Let's go.

I'm very happy to host the most excellent Dennis Upkins, author of the soon to be released Hollowstone. He breezed through the windy city during a stop on his book tour. Hollowstone is AVAILABLE NOW!.

Q: Now, it's great to see more POC authors and queer authors getting their work out and into the hands of readers who often feel left out of the literary mix. Hollowstone looks to address a lot of those needs. However, as a fan who is often left out of the mainstream media I wanted to know what else you might have planned to fill the gaps in for folks who aren't seeing themselves reflected in the media they purchase?

A: I was talking to a good friend of mine about this, another professional writer, and we both discussed how we're always looking for areas of opportunity to improve as far as being progressive and inclusive goes. While Hollowstone runs the gamut in tackling many facets of bigotry and institutional oppression, with Empyrea (the recently finished novel I'm currently editing), I come at representation of marginalized people from a completely different angle. Empyrea features a queer POC as the main protagonist, features multiple women of color in prominent roles.

It shows a loving interracial family in a matter of fact manner. Empyrea essentially illustrates what a world devoid of racism, misogyny, homophobia (as least as we know it) could look like. And while Empyrea is breaking a lot of ground, I've already got sequels planned and I'm looking for ways to step my game up. In the sequels, I know I will have a heroine who is a trans woman, lesbian characters and a disabled character. Each of them have important storylines, fleshed out roles, and treated with respect. The next novel I've got planned after Empyrea is a superhero story which features a teenage black girl and a gay man as the co-protagonists. Both characters have stories that are worth sharing. I'm constantly striving for ways to improve representation in my works because I believe everyone has a story worth telling.

Q: I know you've mentioned it on your blog, but I'm curious about who would be cast in a Hollowstone movie? Do you think the movie would suffer from white washing such as the reported casting options for a remake of Akira? Would you rather Hollowstone remain a book if your only option was to have a movie cast in the majorities image rather than how they are depicted in the book?

A: In regards to dreamcasting, I think this post sums it up: http://neo-prodigy.livejournal.com/954523.html Do I think the movie would suffer from white washing? That would always be a risk, a huge one in fact. It would really depend on the players involved, how much money would be riding on it and chance. For that matter, a publisher could've tried to whitewash the story, and we've seen this crap happen far too often. Luckily I was blessed to find a home with a good publisher (Parker Publishing) that was welcoming of Hollowstone as is. I give props to Neil Gaiman and Ursula K. Le Guin who have both been outspoken in standing tall against allowing their characters to be whitewashed and I would like to think if presented with the choice, I would make the same decision. Because Hollowstone tackles too many important issues to allow such crap to happen.

Q: If you could make the literary world over in an image that would included fair and equal representation for everyone, how would you do that with your authorial powers?

A: I guess pretty much what I'm doing now. Writing stories that celebrate marginalized people. Supporting works with my money that celebrate equal and fair representation of everyone and promoting and working with other marginalized creators to see their work make it to the public.

Q: We already talked a bit about being marginalized and invisible in mainstream media. As a queer man and POC, did frustration with that marginalization and invisibility have anything to do with Hollowstone's creation?

A: Not really. At least not consciously or directly. I didn't intentionally set out to write a story that was in reaction to being marginalized or invisible in mainstream media. But as the story developed, took on a life of its own, and continued to evolve, it did exactly that. But it had more to do with the fact that much of Hollowstone is based on personal experiences and things I've witnessed first hand. The marginalized issues was something I struggled with. It felt like walking a tight rope. Do you tip your toe in the pool of social justice issues and risk making your characters cliches who only exist to whine about racism or homophobia or do you go all out, balls to the walls, and show it all unapologetically and let the story share its truth. And why does it always have to be about racism/homophobia with gay and black characters. I wrestled with these choices and then finally I just had to tell myself, frak it. Truth is truth, no matter how inconvenient it is, and as Noah states in the opening of the novel, there are some stories that just must be told.

Q: If you could fix one thing in fandom (Take your pick; comics, movies, books, all of the above) which one would you fix or is it too broken to fix?

A: I would say all of the above, if for no other reason than they all intersect. I'm not sure if fandom is too broken to fix but I definitely think something drastic is going to have to happen, a massive overhaul to fix things. At minimum, marginalized peeps are going to have to double their efforts in creating their own spaces, their own media, supporting one another and boycotting those that denigrate them. At most, the industry is going to have to fall and be rebuilt before things can improve. Or something else unexpected can occur. I think it's a matter of staying vigilant about these issues and continue to press forward even if fandom is hellbent on backsliding in regards to progress.

Q: If any of your characters from Hollowstone could write a post for the We Got Your Back Project, who would submit their story and what would they say?

A: WOW! This has to be one of the most powerful questions I've received. You know the We Got Your Back Project is near and dear to my heart, and some of the characters would definitely have a lot to say.

Noah- He would definitely discuss his experiences with knowing Ryan, Neely, and another gay character who is revealed in the story. He would discuss his experiences in trying to be a straight ally and would urge other allies to be proactive in supporting their queer brothers and sisters based on the folks who impacted his life.

Neely- She would discuss her experiences being a bisexual teen, growing up in a conservative environment, and how it isn't easy to be out and proud, in spite of what society would have you believe. She would also point out that if it wasn't for her older brother—who loved, protected, and accepted her as God intended her to be—she probably wouldn't be here today. She would probably say why support and love is vital, especially in light of all the hatred and bigotry LGBTQs endure on a day to day.

Ryan- Ryan's story would be the most powerful. Because he goes through a lot in the story. And his story is a sobering reminder why it doesn't always get better and that in fact, it rarely does. And if his story doesn't move people to take an active role in fighting bigotry and hatred, nothing will.

Q: Do you think that Hollowstone and books like it will finally get POC authors out of the "African American Author" purgatory books by black authors are often dropped into regardless of the books subject matter?

A: Your guess is as good as mine. If authors like Octavia Butler and L.A. Banks haven't clued society in that our work is universal just like white authors, I don't know if society will ever learn. As POC authors, all we can do is do what we can and just hope and pray for the best.

Q: Lastly, will we get to see more of the Hollowstone cast in future novels? Will we get to follow them as they develop or will they remain in the world built in Hollowstone?

A: You know, the thought of doing a sequel, even a trilogy, crossed my mind more than once. It was an idea I toyed around with and even debated with myself. Then I realized that the characters in Hollowstone get so much closure, not to mention the fact that the novel ends in a very unique way, that to do a sequel would probably be a disservice to the characters and the story. If you can ever exit on a high note, that's the way to do it. That being said...in the superhero story I'm outlining, one of the central characters will make an appearance and something about their fate that was all but promised in Hollowstone, gets confirmed in the superhero novel. So stay tuned.

Denny, thank you so much for stopping by during your book tour and we'll be sure to give Hollowstone a review now that its out! If all of that didn't convince you to buy Hollowstone, here's 12 reasons to order it! You can order Hollowstone directly from the publisher or from Amazon.com

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

We Got Your Back Project is not dead...

We Got Your Back Project is still alive and still seeking submissions.

I had a chance to talk the project up at Gay Is the New Black? Event hosted by JF tonight. Hopefully this will generate some interest and new submissions.

Can I ask a favor? Can you all please signal boost this project for me & whereisjoy? We don't want to see it die but to thrive it needs stories, your stories so that our POC-LGBTQIA youth know that they are not alone and just because someone says its gets better, that it may not apply to them.

I'll also post this on WordPress so you can tweet it, Facebook it and pass it on.

Inquiries can be made at: wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com

Submission Info

Submission guidelines are below. If you come across something you think would be good for posting, please email us at wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com or tweet at us WGYBProject on Twitter.

Thanks for your interest in contributing to the “We Got Your Back” Project! We are accepting videos and written statements that share how the lives of LGBTQIA people get better when we have each others back. Give some hope to LGBTQIA youth by telling them how your own life improved. To submit, send an email to wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com We request that posts meet the following guidelines:

Videos: Please keep videos to no more than 8 minutes maximum. If you have a video on YouTube or Vimeo, please submit a link to the video and a brief description.

Length: 2,500 word maximum. (Please note, longer posts may be broken up into several posts on the project)

Language: Feel free to use adult language, however please warn for swearing or other adult and/or potentially triggering language in your post at the beginning. If you do share potentially triggering material, we ask that you use the “more” tag to put it behind a cut.

Permission to repost/share your content: Please indicate to us whether or not you consent to the sharing of your material outside of this project when you submit your post and/or video.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there
Originally posted by [personal profile] kate_nepveu at Con or Bust NOW taking requests for July-September cons!

Con or Bust is pleased to announce that as of this very moment, and through May 31, fans of color/non-white fans may request assistance to attend SFF cons in July, August, and September 2011.

Because there was no advance notice that we'd be taking requests, please repost and link to this post far and wide so that people know that assistance is possible. I will announce the precise amount after WisCon, once the T-shirt sales are counted up and I hear from some cons I've contacted, but a minimum of $600 will be available to help fans of color attend cons for the next three months, plus two memberships to Renovation, the 2011 WorldCon, generously donated by Renovation itself.

Read this post for how to request assistance. Donate con memberships by e-mailing knepveu@steelypips.org. Donate money with a PayPal account or credit card with this button:

Or learn more about Con or Bust generally. And thank you for your help in spreading the word!

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Black is... Black ain't...

Black is beautiful, just so we are motherfucking CLEAR. Black ain't "less desirable than other races",

"inherently less attractive than other races"


So... we are in the throes of yet ANOTHER online storm about black folks. Black women's looks, black women's bodies, black fathers and the old ass trope of omfg black folks are on the internet too!?! How about that has been dragged out and beaten again for what its worth. (A hint - Not much). I tried to be eloquent and wordsmithy, but you know what? Fuck it, I'm sick of being polite about people telling me how I should feel about how I look.

So many people have waxed eloquently on this topic that I'll give you links and such... but for what my 0.02 is worth; I'm so fucking sick of being told that I'm not beautiful or attractive or worthy of love and affection because I'm "strong" or career focused or "the strength of the family.". I'm really fucking sick of the idea that everyone gets a say in how I feel about myself as a black woman. I'm tired of everyone getting to hold up the brown paper bag to check my blackness, and worthiness of having a say in racial debates because I'm fair skinned and obviously "not really black."

I'm tired of pseudo scientists speculating on the attractiveness of myself and the bounty of black women everywhere. Who the fuck decided that this guys opinion was worth anything to begin with? I don't even know what an evolutionary psychologist is, do you? Someone explain what that means and then you'd better have a really, really good reason as to why some "evolutionary psychologist" gets a say on black bodies and beauty. I'll be here, so when you get a clue, come holler at me. Until then, all these faux pop psychologists and arm chair thinkers can shut the fuck up about our bodies, our beauty and everything else in-between.

I leave you with some great articles and a repost of a lovely image snagged from the Angry Black Tumblr.

You Keep Saying Black Women are Ugly Worthless Whores and We Refuse to Believe you by Karnythia

Racialicious: Repeat Offender: Satoshi Kanazawa’s Other Greatest Misses

Angry Black Tumblr: The Article is now gone, but more thoughts

Angry Black Woman: Initial post on this article; noting original title was "Why are Black Women Ugly?"

ABW: Screencap of the article in question, after the title was changed.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there
Birther = Racist, there simple equation. There is nothing subtle about the racism involved in these people questioning Pres. Obama's qualifications. No one questioned Bush's qualifications, and it was known he was an average student, and never seemed too bright. YET, I respected the Office of the President even if I had no respect for the person holding the office. Birther foolishness shows there's not even a shred of respect for the office or the person.

As its been said and said again, if Barack Hussein Obama was white, if his middle name was not Hussein or if these stupid ass people could not let go of their imagined rights to own everything and everyone the issue of where he was born would have never been an issue. It's also clear they failed Civics in high school. Having one US Citizen parent gives the child citizenship, and he was born in Hawaii which is still part of the US last time I checked.

But we also know that these idiots will not let the matter rest, they will call the cert a forgery or claim every single person who has testified to the fact our POTUS is a USC was coerced, bribed or somehow part of some larger conspiracy. Take your pick of what the next ridiculous fantasy about Obama will be, but no one will let it rest.

Last time, He is a citizen, not a sekrit Muslim and not a hater of all things non-Black. He does not want to put Whites into slavery or take away your guns. He wants to be our President and its high time you fools shut up and let him do his job instead of having to have an actual fucking press conference about where he was born.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Fare thee well Sarah Jane

Fitting tribute image snagged from neo_prodigy who got it from box_in_the_box


As everyone knows Elisabeth Sladen passed away yesterday after battling cancer. Here's Neo's tribute post, which is beautiful.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Promotion - Deathless by Cat Valente

The most Awesome Catherynne Valente's book Deathless is available on Amazon.com at a great price! I met Ms. Valente at WorldCon a couple years ago and she is pretty damn cool. Her work is awesome, so buy a copy right NOW. She is stopping in Chicago on her book tour as well.

So buy it, here

A quick PSA before I dash

... out the door. If you believe that the earthquake and tsunami in Japan is some kind of deserved karmic retribution for Pearl Harbor Get The Everloving Fuck Out out of my life and never speak to me again. It's now on the list of: if you believe this we are done in every way possible.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Things not to do

If you are no longer my friend, do not fucking contact my significant other for any reason. Especially if you didn't know of each other before you met via me. I don't care what the reason is, you weren't friends with him before me you sure as fuck don't get to try and be friends after you've cut me off as a friend.

I cannot believe the mother fucking utter nerve of people. I can't keep that bitch's presence out of any fucking aspect of my life, none.
Reminder: auction ends in just under 15 hours

Hi all,

A very quick morning-for-me update to say that bidding ends tonight at 11:59 PM EST (GMT -5) (time conversions around the world), or in just under 15 hours.

Thank you all for spreading the word and offering last minute items! Here is the last edition of the zero/no bids list:

No bids:

One bid:

[personal profile] kate_nepveu be up until bidding closes, keeping an eye on things, so if there are questions or problems that the bidding instructions can't address, comment here or on the relevant post and she will respond as quick as she can (for daytime values of toddler-in-the-house, that is).

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there
From [personal profile] kate_nepveu:

Here are some con_or_bust auctions with very few or no bids. Please bid and spread the word about these auctions!

Con or Bust is administered by the Carl Brandon Society. Learn more.

Make a donation or pay for an item with a PayPal account or credit card (more information)

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there


The lovely Joy E. has entered an MLK Day essay contest and she's a semi-finalist. Please go here and vote for her essay! It's number five. The $500 prize money will go a long way in helping complete her graphic novel about Tuwani.

I've posted her essay from her blog under the cut. Please vote and pass it on to friends!
Read more...Collapse )

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Signal Boosting for lilitigre

If you are in the KY area, or know folks in the KY area, please pass this information on.

Lilitigre has lost her dog. Please pass this info on. Her post with a pic is here.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Winter Wishlist meme

The rules:
Step One
- Make a post (public, friends locked, filtered...whatever you're comfortable with) to your LJ. The post should contain your list of 10 holiday wishes. The wishes can be anything at all, from simple and fandom-related ("I'd love a Snape/Hermione icon that's just for me") to medium ("I wish for _____ on DVD") to really big ("All I want for Christmas is a new car/computer/house/TV.") The important thing is, make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
- If you wish for real life things (not fics or icons), make sure you include some sort of contact info in your post, whether it's your address or just your email address where Santa (or one of his elves) could get in touch with you.
- Also, make sure you post some version of these guidelines in your LJ so that the holiday joy will spread.

Step Two
- Surf around your friendslist (or friends friends, or just random journals, or [info]holiday_wishes/[info]wish_list) to see who has posted their list. And now here's the important part:
- If you see a wish you can grant, and it's in your heart to do so, make someone's wish come true. Sometimes someone's trash is another's treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don't want or a gift certificate you won't use--or even know where you could get someone's dream purebred Basset Hound for free--do it.
You needn't spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn't to put people out, it's to provide everyone a chance to be someone else's holiday elf--to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not--it's your call.
There are no rules with this project, no guarantees, and no strings attached. Just...wish, and it might come true. Give, and you might receive. And you'll have the joy of knowing you made someone's holiday special.

And if you post a list, please drop a link in comments

- Alan Wake for the 360

- UK Adult Editions of Harry Potter

- Knitpicks Options Needles, a set

- Cranberry Shiraz x3

- User icons for birthday, Peanuts/Snoopy and friendship

- Good music recommendations

-Lindt Cognac Bars

-Boots, good women's boots in 7.5 US, wide calves and warm! Dr, Marten's

-LUSH Products, especially Coal Face, Dark Angels and hair henna

-Woolen socks for winter

-My Amazon Wishlist is here

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

headband from becky's shoppe, originally uploaded by bleu_woulfe.

I got this headband from Becky RG's shop, Pixiefreak on Etsy. Please support her and local artisans!

Don't forget that the awesome fastrada has a shop, Do Bats Eat Cats on Etsy.

I also wouldn't have survived those last rainy days without my PopBrolly from Nohwear by anditron.

So buy their stuff, support local artisans and crafts!

Now I'm off to stuff myself with food and drink for the day.

Signal boosting for rm

Please support Dogboy & Justine. A project the fabulous rm is involved in. $5 will help out! To contribute and learn more, see the Project Page at Kickstarter

If the video embed isn't working, you can view it at the site.


It was unfriending day today and no one told me.

Show your Face

An important message from UW Madison:

Problem with AVG 2011 and FB link posting

In case you have gotten the following error on Facebook when trying to post links:

You appear to be using a browser plug-in that attaches spam to your
Facebook posts. To complete your post, please remove this browser
plug-in or switch to a different computer.

and you have AVG Virus Protection 2011, there is a default setting about adding a scanned by AVG link to your posts that FB is treating as spam. To fix this issue:

It turns out that the latest version of AVG has a feature which inserts a
message about links being safe when you post them on Facebook, MySpace,
etc. Deactivating that fixed it for me. Go to your AVG advanced
settings menu and find LinkScanner, then uncheck the box about inserting
messages into Face...book and MySpace posts.

Answer courtesy Yahoo! Answers, which actually had something useful to say.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there
Ok ya'll, thank you to EVERYONE who has helped get the word out, but we need submissions! Please boost the signal, retweet the reminder call for Submissions post from the WordPress site, Facebook it, and let's get some more submissions!

Thank you!
Joy & Tanya
We Got Your Back Project

Just a reminder folks, that the WGYB Project can’t succeed without your stories! If you have a written contribution, or a video you’d like to contribute to the project, please contact us at: wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com

Also, note that October 15th is not a submission deadline, but when we would like to start posting contributed content on the site! So send us your words, videos, and most of lend your voice to this project!

A repost of the Submission Guidelines are below:

Hello everyone!

Now that word is spreading about this project, we really need your stories! We’ll begin posting stories on October 15th. We are accepting videos, and written statements that share how the lives of LGBTQIA people get better when we have each others back. Give some hope with LGBTQIA youth by telling them how your own life improved. Please submit a blog post via email or a link to your uploaded/embedded video to: wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com

We are encouraging authors of color, bisexual and transgender folks to share their stories in print or via a video message. We want to ensure that your voices are heard, and that you can be the voice that touches a youth in distress. We hope that this project is a part of creating an LGBTQIA community that respects all of us. We need to have each other’s back.
Submission Guidelines are as follows:

Post Length: 2,500 maximum. (Please note, longer posts may be broken up into several posts on the project)

Videos: Please keep videos to no more than 8 minutes maximum. If you have a video on YouTube or Vimeo, please submit a link to the video and a brief description.

Language: Feel free to use adult language, however please warn for swearing or other adult and/or potentially triggering language in your post at the beginning. If you do share potentially triggering material, we ask that you use the “more” tag to put it behind a cut.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Call for Submissions - WGYBProject!

The Call for Submissions for The We Got Your Back Project is up! There are retweet, and Facebook share buttons on the WP post for easy re-posting.

Text for the link phobic below:

Hello everyone!

Now that word is spreading about this project, we really need your stories! We’ll begin posting stories on October 15th. We are accepting videos, and written statements that share how the lives of LGBTQIA people get better when we have each others back. Give some hope with LGBTQIA youth by telling them how your own life improved. Please submit a blog post via email or a link to your uploaded/embedded video to: wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com

We are encouraging authors of color, bisexual and transgender folks to share their stories in print or via a video message. We want to ensure that your voices are heard, and that you can be the voice that touches a youth in distress. We hope that this project is a part of creating an LGBTQIA community that respects all of us. We need to have each other’s back.

Submission Guidelines are as follows:

Post Length: 2,500 maximum. (Please note, longer posts may be broken up into several posts on the project)

Videos: Please keep videos to no more than 8 minutes maximum. If you have a video on YouTube or Vimeo, please submit a link to the video and a brief description.

Language: Feel free to use adult language, however please warn for swearing or other adult and/or potentially triggering language in your post at the beginning. If you do share potentially triggering material, we ask that you use the “more” tag to put it behind a cut.

The We Got Your Back Project

Originally posted by neo_prodigy at The We Got Your Back Project
The lovely ladies [info]tanyad and [info]whereisjoy  are spearheading an amazing campaign entitled The We Got Your Back Project.

In light of recent events, it's clear these projects are needed more than ever. Case in point:



So… Joy E. came up with a nifty idea. A project where LGBTQIA youth, straight allies, adults and others could share their stories to encourage and strengthen youth who may be getting bullied, harassed and otherwise mistreated for being who they are. This project will make sure that lgbtqia of color, bisexual and transgendered folks will not be left out of the work of telling their stories and having their voices heard.

Yes, I know some of you are thinking… but there’s already a similar project out there! Well, yes there is but whereisjoy and I wanted to be sure everyone’s voice is heard, that everyone is able to share their story in the hopes it would give strength to others who are dealing with coming out, being out and bullied as well just for being who they are.

This idea is just a wee idea, barely out of the box and we need your help to make sure it thrives. What we need help with is:

Contributors; anyone who falls within the LGTBTQI & A spectrum, allies, anyone who has been touched by the injustice of having their voices silenced or drowned out by the masses.

A couple people to be editors; to help with reviewing content, posting and maintaining the site (which is now a WordPress site). Please note that the site is pretty bare at the moment, and we are adding content, submission guidelines and such over the next couple of weeks.

As the project grows, we hope to have someone who is media savvy, who can talk to the local LGBTQIA media, and deal with the issues that will arise from creating a project similar to one that already exists. Please note that we are not doing this to be in direct competition with the It Gets Better Project, but rather to supplement and give everyone a voice who may not feel as if they will be heard otherwise.

For now, please spread the word about this project, what we hope to do and most importantly the soft launch date of mid-October 2010. In the interim, please leave questions here, if you want your question discussed off site want to have a longer chat, email us at: wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com

So there’s the great idea, let’s make sure it not only learns to crawl but learns to soar.

Signal Boosting Request for WGYB

Here's a WordPress post on the We Got Your Back Project. Please spread the word about this idea, and if you are willing to contribute your stories, your time and/or energy let us know at wegotyourbackproject@gmail.com

The We Got Your Back Project

Thank you in advance for your support!


Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Spam of porn/light porn jiggle videos


A user named myrasmith is posting what looks to be light porn/jiggle videos in communities then disabling comments. I just killed one in the LBGT Chicago community.

If you see this spammer hit a comm you frequent, please let mods know. I've also reported it as a bot account.

Sep. 10th, 2010

If I find out anyone else is passing on my friends only, locked posts to people that are not on my friends list I will dump you so fast your head will spin. My Livejournal, Dreamwidth and FB account are friends only for a reason. That reason is not for others to pass around what's posted here to others that I'm not connected to.

A moment of silence

A moment of silence

via andrewducker who got it from pope_guilty

Thank you Rei for putting this out there.

As usual, rei_kun breaks this shit down and says what alot of people are thinking. See his post, re: the Dr. Laura verbal Niggerpalooza on her radio show to a black caller. Also see her faux-pology on her blog.

ETA: neo_prodigy lays it down for you as well. I'm not as eloquent as these two lovely gents so I'm letting this be my post on the whole idiocy of "Dr." Laura S and her case of nigger tourettes.

Note, this is not an invitation to troll another person's LJ. As usual house rules apply, if you cannot be civil, don't open your fucking mouth. My level of tolerance for trolling, white-splaining and general fuckery is in the negative numbers so don't even go there. And if you value any semblance of friendship with me, don't even try to give me the ya'll say it, so why can't I routine.

Be warned, the linked post contains her vileness and unnecessary over-use of the word nigger.
I did a bit of F-List cleaning. Mostly comms where people never post anymore. I also dropped alot of people who never added me back or who dropped me without noticing. If you see this and think you have been unfairly dropped, send me a note.

Otherwise, I no longer reciprocate with if you don't friend me back. All my posts (with the exception of a promo or signal boost) are Friends Locked due to past idiocy.


Enwrapture Skirt order!

Hey, do you like lovely, twirly and cute skirts? Well [personal profile] karnythia is doing another Enwrapture order. We're currently about 20 skirts short to get the $8.50 each price on skirts 20' - 34", 36" is the plus size and are $13.50

If you want in on the order you can go to this post, and put your order in via comment in the following format:

Name: (feel free to use a pseudonym if you aren't comfortable putting your first name out in public)
LJ name:
Zipcode: (obviously unnecessary if picking up)

Skirt lengths:
1 24"
1 30"
2 34"

Color and pattern preferences: Example -> I like green, blue, purple, red, and brown, but I hate pink and turquoise and neons, and smaller patterns are best for me.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there

Descriptors post via onceupon

The lovely onceupon is doing a post on how would you describe yourself in a Friending Frenzy comment? And how would you describe her to someone else.

I'm feeling up to the challenge today, so have at it. How would you describe yourself? and how would you describe me?

Here's what I commented for the sake of example:
I'm moderately interesting, a gamer, geek and sci-fi nerd, and on occasion I make things with string and sticks. Not very well, but I try ^___^ I also tolerate little to no bullshit
The 16 Most Intelligent Sci Fi Films Ever made

The list in the same order from the article:

2001 A Space Odyssey
12 Monkeys
Children Of Men
Dark City
The Matrix
Quartermass and the Pit
Altered States
Minority Report
The Fountain
The Day the Earth Stood Still
Donnie Darko

Swiped from [personal profile] andrewducker's daily link post. Do you agree? Disagree? Think there are more than 16 movies that belong on this most intelligent list?

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there


Fail, just utter fail AGAIN

So... in watching the utter fail continue to spread across the universe based on this nasty Haiti RPS/Disaster porn fic, and the flail, OMG be nice to meeeee! shite going on in fandom again, I've got some basic rules for you to follow.

1. It is NOT the author or anyone else's job to educate you when you fuck up. We can tell you that you have fucked up, but we (fandom)has other shit to do besides educate you. Google is your friend.

2, If you are told you have fucked up, DO NOT FLAIL AND GO OMG YA'LL ARE SO MEEEN, WAHHH and act all butthurt about it. You will live, and hopefully grow into a better writer/person/fen due to your fuck up.

3. For the love of all that is holy, DO NOT COMPARE people pointing out your fail to gang rape. (Screencap) Just no, godsdammnit NO. [ETA: I fucked up the html, but it looks like the OP deleted the post anyway and a good chunk of her LJ, oh well no real loss there.]

4. A few people commenting and having intelligent discourse does not a dogpile or mob make. Realize that, and if you can't take some online chatter from people you don't know from a housecat, just GTFO the internet, and come back when you realize that you fucked up and people are trying to tell you that, not mob you.

5. Understand you can do and say racist, fucked up shit without actually being a racist. Don't jump into the OMG YOU CALLED ME A RACIST! I've got a black friend boat at the first mention of your fuck up. No one honestly cares that much to expend a lot of energy on exposing your racist action or words. At the end of the day, no one cares about you and your butthurt feelings.

6. Own your privileges. Understand that there is some shit you will not understand because of your privileges and no one can undo that or make you see that straps of your invisible back pack unless you are willing to do the heavy lifting on dropping that privilege like a hot potato.

7. Lastly, GET A GODDAMNED BETA READER and listen to them. If they tell you the piece is a hot mess of racism, privilege and just fuck no, dammit listen.

That is all from your local POC fan who is utterly sick of people's fucking fail in all aspects of fandom.

Originally posted on tanyad @Dreamwidth. Feel free to comment here, or there
For all of my friends who need to count, and on occasion save their Spoons*, I found this cooking comm mentioned on Dreamwidth.

It's called cookability and it's about low-spoon recipes. The comm is at: http://cookability.dreamwidth.org/

I'm not sure if need a DW account to post, but everything looks to be publicly posted.

*I don't mean literal spoons in case folks reading haven't heard of the Spoon Theory


karnythia this is for those hateful heffa's at the job. Better than the other one I posted to FB! Crank this shit for their hatin' asses!

SamuraiKo needs a little boost...

Help SamuraiKo move to Seattle! SamuraiKo is an awesome City of Heroes videographer, fan and wonderful person. She and her hubby have decided to go West! and they could use a hand. If you can't chip-in, please pass on this link? If SamuraiKo has ever brough a smile to your face with her CoH vids or other work, spare a few bucks wouldya?

Touch a boob week? WTF

On FB, I saw that a friend was "Attending" Touch a Boob week. I looked at the event, and its yet another skeevy attempt at rationalizing feeling up women in the name of helping to stop breast cancer. This creeps me the fuck out, and if ANYONE thinks they can just cop a feel during this supposed "boob week" I will knock you the fuck out. Let's be clear about this; I will hurt anyone who thinks they can just cop a feel on me and claim it's helping stop breast cancer.

Off to scrub off that skeevy feeling after reading that tripe.

ETA: Courtesy of gwenhyffar

Countermeasure Facebook event: You touched my Boob so I broke your hand with a mallet

This is in response to the Touch A Boob event, as a countermeasure against anyone who believes that women's bodies are up for public consumption.

And anyone who goes "oh, but it's voluntary!" has to read up on sexism 101 and the subtle and not so subtle cultural pressures that women experience with regard to their bodies.


Don't you know that sexuality is defined by women's breasts? And the only way we can free the world from sexual shame and realise true bodily freedom is by women making their breasts available for public consumption?

Don't you know that the only reason men and women are ashamed about their bodies and reserved about sexuality is because women don't make their breasts available more readily?

Oh yes, we'd all be living in a Utopia of non-shame about our bodies, we would all be happy little bunnies bopping about merrily without any shame about our wobbly bits and dangly parts if only those uppity women would put their breasts on the public buffet to be consumed by everyone who asks.

Tsk, those women. How dare they deprive the world of this Utopia by insisting on bodily integrity and the right to decide for themselves who touches their body and when? Those poor men, so repressed by women who won't let them touch their breasts.

If you don't want your boobs touched, and especially not under the insulting and spurious claim of bringing awareness of breast cancer, then this is the event you need to be at/
Rebuilding Hope is a film by Jen Marlowe on Sudan and Darfur. We will be screening this film tomorrow at 4:00 pm with an opportunity to discuss the film with the Director Jen Marlowe. Light refreshments will be served. RSVP to internationalprograms@depaul.edu

Info on the film can be found at the Facebook event page

About the film: Rebuilding Hope follows Garang Mayuol, Koor Garang, and Gabriel Bol Deng, who fled their villages in South Sudan due to civil war when they were small children. They grew up in refugee camps and resettled in the USA in 2001.

Accompanied by filmmaker Jen Marlowe, these young men, now in their twenties, embark on a journey back to Sudan to discover whether their homes and families have survived, what the current situation is in South Sudan, and how they can help their communities rebuild after devastating civil war.

Rebuilding Hope also sheds light on what the future holds for Sudan in its precarious struggle for peace and stability. All proceeds from the film go towards drilling water wells, building a school, and providing medical care in the South Sudanese villages where the young men are from; all these efforts are spearheaded by them.


I started this on FB, because I'd noticed that I'd lost a "friend" both on LJ and FB. Partially wondering what I could have done or what post had been offensive enough to make someone leave, I thought of the following passage and wanted to expound here since you can't really have meaningful dialog on FB (at least IMHO)

I've been having "deep thoughts" about the whole concept of "Friending/DeFriending" on Social Media and what those ties actually mean in terms of attachments, real versus surface friendships, connections made that live and die online versus adding an online connection to an already established real live friendship. What happens when those surface bonds are severed, is the "cut" just as deep?

Are those folks we know IRL who we connect with on FB then even more connected or is it just another way to be in touch? Are the folks we come across via LJ, FB, DW, Twitter, etc actual friends? Can they be real friends to us if our only link is electronic? Granted I've made friends via City of Heroes/City of Villains, and via LJ and we've become "real" friends. I.E we've met in person somehow or there's a connection that goes beyond the medium of this blog or FB, and so on.

I guess what I'm meandering towards is wondering how tangible and "real" friendships forged online and via social media really are. Is/can there be a true friendship and connection when you're only known to each other as an online persona, a username amongst all the others and not much else. Have we lost the ability to really connect and do these friendships formed online last? And if those bonds are severed, is it even right to feel a loss over someone you knew only via an electronic medium?

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I'm just me. Nothing too interesting here. I dig everything pretty much except country music, and stupid, ignorant, whiny, prejudiced people. I am currently at Uni. studying Human Computer Interaction (HCI) as an undergrad

I've had a lot of bad shit happen to me in my life. Sometimes I will post about it, other times I may vent about things for no real reason other than to get it off my chest. Remember, my LJ, my rules. So, if you have nothing constructive to say in response to a post... are only going to argue with no real point, or feel what I say is offensive, lewd, crass or otherwise conflicts with your personal beliefs, then feel free to leave or not add me in the first place. Be aware, I've got too much to do with not nearly enough time to do it in to play LJ drama whore and pimp with anyone... even if I've known you forever and a day, what's said here is for me and me alone, like a physical journal I allow very few others to share.

The above was your "get out of jail free card" for not reading, adding, etc...For more relavant information or to take a chance on delving into my twisted sprawling mental landscape; sally forth into my journal.

You've been given fair warning...

** My journal is friends only for a lot of reasons. No obligation to friend me in return if I add you to my friends list.**

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